Completing 2024: Celebrations, Challenges, and Learnings
When I was a yoga teacher over a decade ago, I used to offer a New Year's Eve retreat on a floating platform on a lake in a beautiful national park in northern Thailand. Sounds idyllic, right? It was! The picture above is from that place.
Apart from the morning meditation and yoga practices, swimming in the lake, and the great food, the retreat’s main intention was to guide participants through a two-part process:
Looking back through the year coming to an end
Looking ahead to the year about to begin
Since then, this two-part process has become my annual ritual every December.
We start with the look-back through 2024, which includes six steps:
1) Acknowledge, 2) Process, 3) Release, 4) Reaffirm, 5) Integrate and 6) Celebrate.
The importance of looking back
Looking back isn’t just about revisiting old memories; it’s about extracting meaning from your experiences in support of your life.
Looking back allows you to celebrate your achievements, acknowledge your progress and learn from your challenges. Most importantly, it allows you to make better choices moving forward.
Here are the six steps to guide you through this process:
Step 1: Acknowledge
Recognise your achievements, your progress and growth.
“Looking back reminds us of the strength we possess."
A client once told me he had “done nothing” since our last coaching session. After asking him to name three things he HAD done, he ended up listing five, two of which were key successes he had forgotten about.
Unless you consciously acknowledge your progress, your mind may convince you that you haven’t accomplished as much as you have.
Answer these questions to acknowledge your progress and strengths:
What are three achievements you are most proud of from this year?
What strengths or qualities did you develop or deepen this year?
What’s something you’ve done this year that you never thought you could?
Before you move to the next section, notice how you are feeling right now. Describe your inner state in three words:
Step 2: Process
Reflect on the challenges you faced this year and turn them into lessons.
“Life is not about avoiding challenges but learning how to grow from them.”
Challenges in life are inevitable. If, instead of seeing them as obstacles, you learn to view them as opportunities for growth, you can significantly shift your relationship to adversity and increase your sense of agency and resilience.
Processing isn’t about dwelling on the difficulties, but rather extracting the wisdom that supports your growth.
Reflect on the challenges you’ve faced this year to uncover the insights they’ve offered.
What were the three most significant challenges you faced this year?
What lessons did you gain from these challenges, and how have they contributed to your growth?
Looking back, which challenge are you most grateful for and why?
Before you move to the next section, what is different about looking at the challenges you faced from the perspective of the growth they brought?
Step 3: Release
Let go of what no longer serves you to make space for new perspectives.
“Letting go is freeing yourself from the weight that holds you back.”
One of the most effective ways to release what no longer serves you is by experiencing physical sensations in your body.
As you answer the next questions, notice when uncomfortable emotions arise. Close your eyes and tune into the physical sensations in your body.
Instead of getting caught in thinking patterns of judging, blaming, or ruminating, being present with the physical sensations allows you to process and release them.
What experiences or regrets are you holding on to that no longer serve you?
What unproductive habits or beliefs hold you back from moving forward?
Who do you need to forgive or what do you need to let go of?
Before you move to the next section, reflect on what would be possible by releasing these experiences.
Step 4: Reaffirm
Reconnect with your deepest values and what’s most important to you.
"The key to fulfilment is living in line with what you value most."
One of the biggest sources of suffering I see in my clients comes from living out of alignment with their core values.
In this step, I invite you to reconnect with what matters most to you and to reflect on how much you have lived in alignment with your values Consider what changes might be necessary to bring your life into closer alignment with what is most important to you.
Note: No judgment here! Approach these questions with curiosity and kindness.
What is most important to you and how much attention have you given that this year?
When did you feel most aligned, and most disconnected, from your values this year?
Which of your values do you want to focus on deepening in the coming year?
Before you move to the next section, reflect on the values that you haven’t been attending to, and what you can do differently to bring more attention to them.
Step 5: Integrate
Gather your insights from this process and reflect on ways to put them into practice.
"Insights are only valuable when they translate into action."
Integration is about turning your insights into meaningful shifts. In this step, I invite you to reflect on your key takeaways and begin to think about the changes you want to make.
What are your three main takeaways from this whole process?
What areas of your life do you most want to focus on moving forward?
Before you move to the next section, reflect on this question: if you could make ONE change that would have the biggest impact on your life, what would that be?
Step 6: Celebrate
Complete 2024 by celebrating all your experiences this year and reconnecting with gratitude.
“Celebration is the practice of honouring your continuous growth.”
In this final step, I invite you to honour everything you’ve gained this year and close 2024 with gratitude for all it has brought into your life.
What have you gained from 2024 that you want to celebrate?
Which opportunities or people in your life are you most grateful for?
As you complete this process, notice how you are feeling right now. Describe your inner state in three words:
